How to deal with angry people

Do you remember the last time someone was angry at you?

Recently, someone close to me was abused. Who knows why that person acted in an angry manner? Was it because of a false story they heard? Was it because of their own false beliefs causing them to interpret the situation inaccurately? When someone close to you gets abused, how do you feel?

I’ll tell you how I felt. On hearing about the incident, my mind raced furiously, trying to understand why someone would act in such a manner. But it was hopeless. Whatever possible reason my mind would come up with, I knew that really, I didn’t have enough information to draw a conclusion. There was not enough truth to this situation. And there never would be. The only thing I could do was act with love, reflect on the situation, and take what learnings I could.

To that person close to me, this was my advice: That person was not angry with you. They were angry with them self. They were seeing things in their own way and were doing the best they could, even if they didn’t know it. That is simply who they were at that moment. Continue being yourself. I know your mind will try to reconstruct the situation in every possible way and try to place the blame. But there is no one to blame. Learn from this, you will become stronger.

When someone gets angry at you, understand that they are seeing the world in their own way. They are doing the best they can. Feel every motion that is triggered within you, acknowledge those emotions and fully receive them. Don’t resist these feelings, let them happen and pass. You know that person you desire to be, that person you know you can become? In what way would that person act? Would they retaliate? Would they accept the person for who they are? Would they accept the situation for what it is? Start acting in the way you would if you WERE that person who had all your desires. This takes practice, but eventually this will become an automatic process that lets you stay focused on enjoying every moment of your life. After all, your time here on earth is temporary. Would you rather be enjoying yourself, or having your time wasted?

Then again, when was the last time you were angry at someone else? You’re not angry at them. You’re just angry at yourself. The sooner you realise this, the sooner you can start working on those beliefs that caused you to react with anger…

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